Many traditional behaviour systems focus on consequences — but emotional regulation is a skill, not a behaviour to correct.
Children don’t calm down because they’re told to.
They calm down when they feel safe, supported, and understood.
What Emotional Regulation Really Means
Emotional regulation is the ability to:
- Recognize emotions
- Manage reactions
- Return to a calm, ready-to-learn state
This takes practice — and tools that meet children where they are developmentally.
What Helps Instead of Punishment
Teachers and parents see better results when they:
- Offer choice (“Would you like to sit quietly or use a breathing card?”)
- Use calm, predictable routines
- Provide visual supports rather than lectures
- Model calm responses themselves
These approaches build trust and reduce power struggles.